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ADOS

Do you suffer from the agonizing effects of ADOS?  Do you set goals, or make a list of "to do's" and never seem to complete them?  Do you ever lie in bed thinking, "there are just not enough hours in the day"?  You may be suffering the harmful effects of ADOS - Attention Deficit... Oooh... Shiny!
Now, I am all for a business with flexibility.  The hard part is keeping the "business" in with the flexibility.  So many of us need to accomodate the schedules of others that sometimes we forget that our priorities are important , too.  Keeping schedules, priorities & goals requires discipline.
Do you remember when you were young and all you wanted was a particular toy or your first car... and your parents told you that you had to save your money to buy it?  It was all you could think about and all of your money was stashed away for the day when you finally had enough to go buy it?  Discipline seemed simple- you knew what you wanted, and what it took to get it.
"Discipline is remembering what you want."  David Campbell, founder, Saks Fifth Avenue
What do you want?
To make "x" amount of money?  What do you need to do consistently to make that happen?
A happy family?  What does that mean to you?  Supper on the table at 6 every night?  No dirty laundry in the basket?  One night a week where everyone is together?  Define the priorities.
More friends?  What are you doing to meet people?  What are you offering them?
Health?  Does that mean walking 3-4  times per week?  Or running a marathon?  Does that mean getting into a bikini?  Or just feeling more comfortable in your own skin?  Write it down.
Excitement?  Does that mean jumping out of a plane?  Or learning something new?
Once you really define what your goal is, discipline becomes easier.  When you don't know where you're going, it's hard to know when you get there.  And it's much easier to be distracted... oooh... shiny!

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