Friday, December 17, 2010

When you lose a leadership title

Sometimes it happens that you have been in a leadership position and then you're not.  So then what?  It kind of depends on why you no longer have your title...
Perhaps you are moving on to another leadership role.  Yay, you!  Your job is to gracefully welcome the new leader as you move into your new position.  You also need to let your team know how much you have valued them, and what a great asset they will be for the new leader.  Be gracious and don't burn any bridges.
Maybe you are retiring.  This brings about many life changes.  Try to focus on being able to devote your time only to those things that bring you joy.  Yes, you may feel some loss.  After all, your leadership title may have defined you for a very long time.  But think of the possibilities!  You have so many new opportunities open to you.
Maybe you "lost" your leadership title.  Sure you can sit and wallow and blame this or that, but what does that get you?  You need to decide if you really want your leadership title back - enough to go do the things that got you there to begin with.  Are you willing to be a leader, even without a title?  Then the question is: "Are you a leader in title or action?"

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Stop with the insults.

When did it become OK to insult others while we express our own opinions?
I see it all the time- in politics, on television, and on the internet (especially on blogs).
Don't get me wrong- I am all for standing up for what you believe in.  But just because it's what you believe, doesn't mean it's what someone else believes, or what I believe, or that it's OK to bash people over the head.
I've recently been following a couple of "hot" topics online.  The group has some very valid concerns.  The problem is that in the heat of the issue, several have resorted to personally insulting those that may have a differing opinion.  They've all but said, "You're ugly and your mother dresses you funny".  Just because someone doesn't agree with you, doesn't make them wrong (any more than it makes you right).  Some have even reminded me of the "preacher" at the farmer's market, who stands on his soap box shouting at people that they are all going to hell.  Seriously, who is he reaching with that message?
We need to communicate our frustrations without personally attacking people with a different opinion.  Discuss the issues, not the feelings.  Offer a solution, not an insult.  When you result to insults, you actually water down the point you are trying to make.  You anger & frustrate others, and often alienate as many as you convince.
STOP!  Re-read before you hit "send".  What is your post really saying?